Inconceivable: A Medical Mistake, the Baby We Couldn't Keep, and Our Choice to Deliver the Ultimate Gift
Carolyn Savage, Sean Savage
Language: English
Pages: 304
ISBN: 0062004638
Format: PDF / Kindle (mobi) / ePub
A medical mistake during an IVF procedure. An unthinkable situation . . . you’re pregnant with the wrong baby. You can terminate, but you can’t keep him. What choice would you make?
Carolyn and Sean Savage had been trying to expand their family for years. When they underwent an IVF transfer in February 2009, they knew it would be their last chance. If they became pregnant, they would celebrate the baby as an answer to their prayers. If not, they would be grateful for the family they had and leave their fertility struggles behind forever.
They never imagined a third option. The pregnancy test was positive, but the clinic had transferred the wrong embryos. Carolyn was pregnant with someone else’s baby.
The Savages faced a series of heartbreaking decisions: terminate the pregnancy, sue for custody, or hand over the infant to his genetic parents upon delivery. Knowing that Carolyn was carrying another couple’s hope for a baby, the Savages wanted to do what they prayed the other family would do for them if the situation was reversed. Sean and Carolyn Savage decided to give the ultimate gift, the gift of life, to a family they didn’t know, no strings attached.
Inconceivable provides an inside look at how modern medicine, which creates miracles daily, could allow such a tragic mistake, and the many legal ramifications that ensued with both the genetic family and the clinic. Chronicling their tumultuous pregnancy and its aftermath, which tested the Savage’s faith, their relationship to their church, and their marriage, Inconceivable is ultimately a testament to love. Carolyn and Sean loved this baby, making it impossible for them to imagine how they could give him life and then give him away.
In the end, Inconceivable is a story of what it is to be a parent, someone who nurtures a life, protects a soul, only to release that child into the world long before you’re ready to let him go.
Burning the Days: Recollection
Voyages en postcolonies : Viêt Nam, Algérie, Maroc
Through the night from the time she was only a few months old. Most moms would have been thrilled by that and would have left her undisturbed. Yet I always gave her a bottle before I went to bed because I believed she needed the extra calories. This was even more important after she lost so much weight during her illness. As I sat in the rocking chair with her in my arms that first Saturday night after we found out I was pregnant, I held her tightly. MK, our miracle baby, getting stronger and.
Measuring right on target. Now the blood is sitting on your cervix, so you are probably going to have more bleeding.” She captured a bunch of images and escorted us to an examining room to meet with Dr. Read, who said the blood would either drain or reabsorb. Though Dr. Read was confident that the clot would not harm the baby, I asked for another blood test so we could confirm that my pregnancy hormones—the HCG reading—were continuing to rise. I knew that a fetal heartbeat would be detectable at.
Hung on the results of the DNA test. If the lab was so screwed up that it transferred the wrong embryo into me, there was a chance that its paperwork was off too, or that the way it filed the embryos was a jumble. Maybe when I got the DNA results I’d learn that these months of agony were misplaced emotions and this baby was really ours. Finally the day arrived when the lab results appeared in the mailbox. I opened the unmarked envelope eagerly, unfolded the single piece of paper, and immediately.
Emotions. The bitterness and resentment that had consumed me for the past five months were finally giving way to hope for the future. Surely Karma would circle back around and repay us. Could Shannon be right? Could this be God’s divine plan unfolding behind the scenes in a way that was meant to be? What if, through this event, my baby would be born from Jennifer and escape the dangers of a premature delivery due to the failure of my body? What if this Little Man carried to term because he didn’t.
Mean by through?” “You have to face it, all of it, all the emotions,” he said. “When people tell you that you should be feeling a certain way or behaving in the way they would, that’s not where your focus should be. Whatever you are feeling, if it’s sorrow or grief or that you want to punch your fist through the wall, all of that is completely justifiable. Don’t restrict the way you feel to fit someone else’s agenda, someone else’s idea of conduct. The best way out is through these emotions.